Tips for a first time! Consider myself bi-curious and am looking to have sex with a man for the first time. I really do not know what I want/prefer...other than trying it all (taking and giving) and making a decision thereafter. Are there any tips, that the community can give, to help me enjoy and get the most out of my first experience...and to properly prepare? Thanks in advance!

If you're the receiver in anal sex, go slowly, use a lot of lube, and make sure the top uses a condom, no matter what he says about HIV status, even if he shows you his test results. He could have gotten the virus shortly before or after the test and it wouldn't show yet. And go slow, and make sure he will stop if you're in too much pain, and use a lot of lube and go slow and use a lot of lube!! And try to relax. A glass of wine might help, but DO NOT, repeat DO NOT get drunk because you might agree to something unsafe, or he might do something unsafe when you're in no shape to resist. Keep your wits about you. Have fun!

Lots of good info! I have done a few "insertions" on my own, and realize that nothing can be done too quickly. I am thinking when my first comes (no pun intended) that I may try to sit on the penis to control speed and penetration. I am so aware of safety. Admittedly the thought of feeling the warm release sounds cool, not at the risk of becoming ill. Thanks for all of the insight. Got any other info?

Re tips for a first time No doubt, guy, that you will be getting quite a few tips, but here are a few that I found very helpful to me... First off all: 1. Celebrate your new sexual freedom!! You have made a choice to act upon what you have been curious about & you will find so much satisfaction by being satisfied by both guys and gals. No need to feel "weird" "shamed" or embarrased. 2. As far as roles goes, there are guys who love to top(giving)or bottom(taking) exclusively or some guys who enjoy both positions (as I do)...moving on... When I fantasized about being with guys, I always thought I would be a bottom, but after having sex, I found that will top in the same sexual scenario. Some gay-curious guys, bi guys are strictly tops and most sexual encounters are all about their pleasure while other guys who bottom concentrate on the top getting pleasure. Allowing yourself the option to do both will ensure you get as much pleasure as you can handle. 3. Curious about being fucked. Practice with something smaller (like fingering ur hole)to start getting your hole relaxed and used to being played with. Move up to larger items(Bookranch has dildos, butt-pluggs in gradual sizes) or use ur imagination with something around the house...(carrot, hint). What I did, knowing that being fucked for the first time in 3 years would be painful, I graduated to a larger dildo and "self-fucked" while jerking, to help get passed the discomfort. Then when you actually have a real cock in you, you can enjoy it right away. My very first fucking ever was with a guy who was 7" thick and it was a long and kind of painful experience. But by the end (30 min of gradual penetration)I was begging for more! 4. Just being a top...well, do as you do best, fuck and let your imagination work (most of the same positions women can do, sexually, a guy can too, so play around. 5. Having a guy who is patient definetly helps alot. 6. Be a realist. As much as I love a perfect man's ripped, toned body as any other...reality may be that your best sex will come from someone less idealistic (ok, so I am not idealistic, but no guy has complained...lol) 7. Have fun! want to talk more...hit me up

follow up I like everything you had to say here. It was both exciting, and a bit hot! I'm looking for a first time experience with somebody you describe here from a patience, not so much a physical, standpoint. Do you have any good input on where to find these evasive good men?

Tips for a first time, follow up Sweet. Glad you what I had to say. Honestly, I coulnt advise you on where to find these elusive good men. Save myself. Personally, I have only been out over a year now, and have not been to clubs or gay scene (in Northern CO, the gsy scene is very small, but depending on where you are at, you may have better luckm si I check and other gay sites to find guys. But if you prep yourself, you wont have to be too worried about being topped by an aggressive top and there are plenty out there. Hit me back if you wish...be watching for your reply.